Every teenager rebels against authority at some point--talks back, breaks curfew, or disobeys. But literally millions of teens take their rebellion to a point where it disrupts their families and endangers their own futures or even their lives. If one of these teens is yours, you've probably lived through years of conflicting advice and pat solutions that don't last. Finally, this breakthrough guide from a master therapist will show you the seven steps to positive, permanent change for you and your teenager:
1. Learn the real reasons for teen misbehavior. 2. Make an ironclad contract to stop that behavior. 3. Troubleshoot future problems. 4. End button-pushing. 5. Stop the "seven aces" -- from disrespect to threats of violence. 6. Mobilize outside help. 7. Reclaim lost love within the family.
Clear, compassionate, and packed with real-life solutions to real-life problems, this book gives parents the tools they need to turn their families' lives around for good.
Practical Interventions For Parenting On the tradition of Jay Haley's Leaving Home Dr. Sells provide observable,measurable and effective ways on how to parent troubled children/adolescents.
Nowadays there is too much rethoric in family therapy literature. Dr. Sells is an exemption.
Parents Beware Perhaps this book should have been titled, "Parenting your extremely disrespectful teen".
I read the first couple of chapters of this book with some hope that the author understood the deep frustration that parents of a wild teen are going through. While I still feel that to be true, the author continually addresses such "out of control" behaviors as "swearing" and "refusing to clean his room". If only those were the problems we were facing in our home!
I searched the book for the two primary problems which we are facing, which are lying and promiscuity. Sadly, the author does not address these two subjects in any detail. In short, he gives no strategies whatsoever to deal with those problems. If your teen is TRULY out of control, you may want to get this book from the library first and see if the issues you are facing are addressed before spending any money.
Not very realistic We would have a problem applying some of the heavy techniques in this book for our moderately out-of-control kids. I think this is a good book for those with seriously out of control teenagers. However for both the serious and less serious cases, some of the recommendations in the book are just too unrealistic, and a little repetitive.
Horrid ! This book was recommended by a therapist while we were struggling with our soon to be 15 year old at the time. It was devasting. The concepts and suggestions are embarressing, insulting and degrading to teenagers and show no respect for their individualism, personal struggles or pain. Neither does it truly take into account how many of these teenagers have special needs that need to be considered with patience, humility and self restraint on the part of Authoritarian parents. It is rough having an out of control child. It hurts the entire family and many tears are shed but to further alienate these children is offensive. I know. I did it. I read the book and threw it out. After too much money spent on therapy and programs and taking advice from too many school counselors I found "Positive Discipline For Teenagers" by Jane Nelson and Lynn Lott. What a concept! Respect these Teenagers! A year ago I was worried my son might end up in jail. Today I'm worried if he is getting enough protein! He is a conscientious cheerfull young man who respects life, is a Vegan and spends time on his own learning to control his anger and disabilities and discusses openly with his Father and I.Thanks to Jane and Lynn for their wonderful book. Get "Positive Discipline for Teenagers" before your child hits puberty and stay clear of "Parenting Your Out of Control Teenager". Learn to respect and love each other now.
A great Buy! A must buy for beneficial strategic parenting info! Good information to help recognize various behavioral patterns.
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